Why Are We So Emotional?

Emotions are useful, but you have to know how to control them. A lot of us go through life feeling emotions not knowing how to respond. They control us. This doesn’t need to be the way though. We can learn to modify our emotions. This takes time. It isn’t easy to stop the processes which have been going on for decades inside us. We don’t have to stop them. We don’t want to stop them. What we ought to do is understand the good side of emotions, and the bad side. Once we understand this, we can make our responses different. Emotions are learned, they’re an automatic way of responding to things. This automatic way of responding is useful. It saves us time thinking. It means we understand without having to think of all the specifics. If we’re broken up with, then we feel sad because we understand how this means less good things will be happening in the future. Some emotions aren’t useful. A lot of emotions hold us back. They keep us from working as hard because we’re too busy thinking thoughts which go nowhere. Running over the same things again and again won’t help you. You don’t work well when you’re sad. You need to recognize your emotions to change them. Recognizing emotions is the first step. Recognize which emotions are useful and should be encouraged. These are the ones you should focus on. When small good things happen take time to notice them and appreciate how much you like these small beautiful sides of life. When bad emotions are holding you back, ignore them and work through them. You can’t feel bad about a breakup if you’re busy focusing on a book or a sport. Take time to reflect. Once you’ve trained your emotions so that you’re more sensitive to good emotions, and less sensitive to the bad ones, you’ll be happier. You’ll also be able to work better, as you don’t get distracted by the problems. Work harder, earn more, get even happier because of this. We at SOLS Health have a lot of experience with emotions. If you want help handling them, come talk to us. Subscribe to our newsletter here.   Written by Marcomms Intern, Jack Seaberry.